5 Effective Ways to Better Yourself After a Breakup

Romantic breakups are just as emotionally traumatizing for men as they are for women. As a man, people often expect you to show no emotion after a breakup. However, this is hard to do if you really cared about or even loved your ex-girlfriend or fiancé. It is even more difficult if you were in the relationship for a long duration. But don’t allow a romantic breakup to negatively impact on your future. There are ways to better yourself after a romantic breakup.


Accept What Happened and Move On


It doesn’t make sense blaming her or yourself. It won’t change things. If you want to wallow in your pain or guilt, that’s understandable. It might even help you to see the error of your ways and help you to move on. But just do it for a few days or weeks at the most. The guys that you hang out with might tell you to “man up” about the whole situation.


However, it is best to get the pain or guilt out of your system before moving on to a new relationship. Besides, it’s not fair to the next person that you meet. Don’t bring old baggage to the new relationship. Deal with your hurt emotions or wounded pride and move on.


Prepare to Get Back into the Dating World


Do whatever you need to do to prepare for new relationships. This process may take a few days for some men and a few years for others. If you need to remain dateless for a while, then do it. This can do wonders to strengthen your emotions and build confidence. If you need to lose a few pounds to feel better about yourself, then do it. You must make yourself happy before you can do the same for someone else.


Give Yourself Time to Heal


Men are always told that the best way to get over a female is to find another one. This is sage advice if you weren’t the one that was dumped. If you are experiencing a broken heart, it is best to give yourself time to heal before you try to find another girlfriend. Unfortunately, this might take time, especially if there is some resentment towards your ex-girlfriend. Make yourself better emotionally before jumping into another relationship.


Lean on Your Family and Friends


You might feel compelled to hide the breakup from your family and friends. However, they can help you to get over the breakup faster. Spend more quality time with your family. Or plan to hang out more with your guy friends. Hit the ballpark or the gym. Just do more of the fun things that you used to do before “she” came along.


Concentrate on Your Goals


Take your mind off of the breakup by focusing more on your goals. What do you want to do in life that you haven’t done? Do you want to get a promotion at work? Or maybe you would like to learn how to ride a motorcycle? Learn a new hobby such as fishing or wine tasting. Jot down a few things that you want to do and do them. It could be something that you already know how to do or something that you want to learn how to do.


All in all, romantic breakups are hard for men too. But instead of sitting around like a lovesick puppy, find ways to make a bad situation better. Move on and do fun things in life with friends and family. Concentrate on some of the things that you have always wanted to do. This will do wonders to help improve your situation. editor@urbanmediatoday.com


Ray Jr. on Sports


  1. Pitt QB Browne out the rest of the season-Definitely sad news for the Pitt Panthers graduate-transfer from USC. Apparently, Max Browne’s should injury in Pitt’s 27-24 loss to Syracuse was more serious than once thought. He will miss the rest of the 2017 season, which means his college career is over. I wasn’t much of a fan, but I wish the kid the best.
  2. Browne’s stats-In 6 games, Browne went 96-for-135 for 997 yards, five touchdowns and two interceptions with Pitt. Two weeks ago, he threw for 410 yards in a 42-10over Rice. In that game, I was very impressed with his poise and ability to throw the deep ball, but unfortunately, those skills disappeared against Syracuse and weren’t there in the other 4 games. After underachieving at USC, he should mark that game vs. Rice as the highlight of his collegiate career.
  3. It’s Ben DiNucci’s turn now-Some of us wanted him, and because of Browne’s unfortunate events, we got DiNucci is now Pitt’s QB and he will get a chance to prove whether he can handle the responsibility. True freshman Kenny Pickett will be the backup after head coach Pat Narduzzi burned his Redshirt. DiNucci can scramble, but whether he can get the ball to his WRs is the question. He gets kudos for leading Pitt to an 11-point comeback before eventually losing to Syracuse.
  4. Pitt vs. North Carolina State-If Pitt thought Penn State and Oklahoma State was tough, then they need to brace themselves vs. the upstart NC State Wolfpack (5-1, 3-0 ACC) who will come into Heinz Field vs. the Panthers Saturday. It’ll be Pitt’s Homecoming game and they will be wearing those sharp throwback home uniforms. Hopefully, Pitt will be ready.
  5. When did NC State get so good? Apparently, this season. I’m not saying that the team is horrible, but it was easy to think of the basketball team when you thought of NC State. Not this year, the football team has truly stepped it up. They average 33 points a game and 471 total yards a game. QB Ryan Finley has passed for 10 TDs and RB Nyheim Hines has run for 513 yards. And their upset over ACC power Louisville basically says it all: This team is
  6. Pitt’s history vs. NC State-Not a huge one, but Pitt holds a 5-3-1 advantage over NC State in a series that dates to 1952…this will be the first ACC meeting between the two schools…the last time the teams played, in 2009, the Panthers were members of the Big East…NC State won that ’09 encounter, 38-31, as quarterback Russell Wilson rallied the Wolfpack from a 14-point deficit. The teams have split two bowl matchups…Pitt and NC State twice played in the Tangerine Bowl in Orlando, Fla. (1978 and 2001)
  7. Can Pitt beat NC State? It’s honestly easy to say no given Pitt’s struggles vs. ranked teams this season (NC State is ranked #20 in the AP Poll), but I feel that even though the Wolfpack is a more talented team if Pitt is properly prepared, they will have a shot. Translation: They punch NC State in the mouth early and often with TDs and make splash plays on defense. Easier said than done, right? You betcha.
  8. K Alex Kessman-After his early struggles, this redshirt freshman has truly made an impression after He has made four consecutive field goals covering 55, 49, 42 and a school record-tying 56 yards.It’s nice to know that’s one area that Pitt doesn’t have to worry about.
  9. S Jordan Whitehead-It’s so nice to see this kid back as well after missing 3 games due to suspension. In the Syracuse game, Whitehead rushed seven times for 73 yards (10.4 avg.), including a 35-yard touchdown, and also ran for a 2-point conversion. On defense, he collected nine tackles. This kid can truly be a boost for the Panthers the rest of the season as long as he stays healthy and out of trouble.
  10. AP Top 5-Of course, Alabama and Clemson remain in the #1 and #2 spots, but there’s a new #3; Penn State who continues to remain red-hot. Georgia is #4 and Washington is #5. If the season ended today, Alabama would play Penn State, which would be pretty huge.
  11. Steelers vs. Chiefs-This is the rematch of the AFC Divisional Game in which the Steelers beat the Chiefs 18-16 and they did so on K Chris Boswell’s playoff-record 6 field goals. I’m thinking they will need to score TDs this time around against 5-0 KC.
  12. Can the Steelers beat KC? I think they can. After embarrassing themselves against the Jacksonville Jaguars Sunday, this may be the type of game that the Steelers need to break out of their funk. Of course, it’ll be hard to beat KC at Arrowhead Stadium, but if the Steelers could do in January, they can do it in October, provided they are in sync on offense, which means use all of their weapons, offensive coordinator Todd Haley.
  13. The State of Ben Roethlisberger-Despite his 5 interceptions and postgame comments, I don’t worry about this man. He’s not done and it’s ok to have a bad game every occasionally. I just hope that he spreads the ball out a little more because he truly has lots of weapons. It’s gonna take that against KC defense who will truly have WR Antonio Brown covered.
  14. The State of the Steelers-Frankly, I think this 3-2 team needs to grow up. Stop the bickering on social media, stop the public temper tantrums and the attention-seeking. In layman’s terms: No More Drama! It takes unity to win a Super Bowl, which they will not do in their current state.
  15. LB James Harrison will play Sunday-Well, according to Steelers defensive coordinator Keith Butler. I think it was foolish for the team to not dress Harrison stating that they’re preserving him…for what? The Steelers need him He can change and impact games, and KC needs a dose of the 39-year old pass-rusher.
  16. Santonio Holmes retires as a Steeler-We know it’s only an honorary act, but the former Steelers WR officially announced his retirement Tuesday as a Steeler, the team that drafted him in 2006. He went on to become Super Bowl 43 MVP. I like how he has matured which makes it easy to forget what led him to get traded from the Steelers in 2010.
  17. Adrian Peterson is a Cardinal? Seriously, what has happened to this dude? Just 2 years ago, he won an NFL rushing title, now he has already played on 2 teams. First, he signed with New Orleans after the Minnesota Vikings let him go, and I’m convinced that the Saints didn’t know what to do with him after he hardly played in their first 5 games. But going to a team like the Arizona Cardinals will be a bonus because head coach Bruce Arians will know how to use him. I wish him the best.
  18. NFL upholds Ezekiel Elliot’s suspension-So after fights from the NFLPA and federal court, we’re back where we started with the Dallas Cowboys RB: Suspended for 6 games. So now the Cowboys will need to rely on veterans Darren McFadden and Alfred Morris, who was the man with the Redskins a few years ago.
  19. NBA-With the regular season starting in a few days, I think this will be a pretty exciting season. Golden State hopes to repeat, Cleveland hopes to be healthy enough to win 2 titles in 3 years, and OKC, Boston, and Houston hope to fulfill their goals in winning a title. I’m looking forward to it.
  20. MLB Playoffs-Kudos to the NY Yankees who rebounded from an 0-2 deficit to beat the Cleveland Indians in the ALDS. They will now face the Houston Astros in the ALCS. I respect the Astros, but I’m rooting for the Yankees and Aaron Judge in this series.

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Football Prepares For Clash at Miles College in SIAC Matchup

Frankfort, Ky.-Kentucky State University football will travel to Miles College for a 3 pm ET kickoff on Saturday, where all eyes from around the Southern Intercollegiate Athletic Conference will be focused on the potential outcome.

The Thorobreds (2-4, 1-1) have dropped back-to-back contest against Morehouse College and West Virginia State University, after winning back-to-back games against Kentucky Wesleyan College and Central State University. The Golden Bears (3-3, 1-1) have won three of their last four games, with their lone loss coming to east division power Albany State University on Sept. 30.

Following last year’s upset at Alumni Stadium, where KSU took down the heavily favored Golden Bears after a fumble recovery in the end zone in the closing momentums. Both squads have circled Saturday’s matchup as one to watch.
Sophomore running back Brett Sylve walks in as one of the top performers in the conference. The Hammond, Louisiana native was recently named the SIAC Offensive Player of the Week, his second weekly conference honor of 2017. Sylve is coming off a career performance where he collected 235 all-purpose yards, including 167 rushing yards, and two touchdowns against the Yellow Jackets.

As a team KSU enters the game as the No. 4 rushing squad in the conference, averaging 144.8 yards per contest. While MC possesses the No. 9 ranked rushing defense in the SIAC, giving up 216.7 yards a game. On the flip side, MC ranks above KSU in rushing offense at No. 3 with 182.2 yards per game, but KSU comes in as the No. 3 ranked rushing defense, allowing just 133 yards per game.

One factor to keep track of will be special teams. KSU ranks No. 1 in combined yardage in kick returns and punt returns at 853 total yards, along with four touchdowns. Fort Valley State University is the only other team to score more than one special team’s touchdown in the SIAC, and it stands at two with two punt returns.

Fans planning to attend the clash of west division foes are encouraged to plan ahead, as MC will be conducting various activities for homecoming. For those looking to keep up with the action, merely follow @KYSUFB on Twitter for live updates leading up to kickoff and throughout the afternoon.



PRAIRIE VIEW, Texas – The Prairie View A&M University football team continued its preparation for Saturday game at Alcorn State, with coaches that can give a unique perspective on this week’s opponent.


The Panthers (2-3 overall, 2-1 SWAC) will play at Alcorn State (4-2, 2-0) in a 2 p.m. game at Spinks-Casem Stadium. The PVAMU Sports Network broadcast will begin the pregame show at 1:30 p.m. featuring interviews with WR Khadarel Hodge and Head Coach Willie Simmons prior to kickoff. The game will be broadcast in Houston on Synergy Radio 1480 AM, and online at pvpanthers.com/sportsnetwork. Fans can also watch Alcorn’s live video stream of the game for $6.95, with these and live stats links available at pvpanthers.com.


Both current head coaches and both defensive coordinators shared apartments while coaching at Alcorn. Simmons, who was the offensive coordinator and running backs coach from 2012-14, was roommates with Alcorn head coach Fred McNair, who at the time was assistant head coach and quarterbacks coach.


Also sharing an apartment was current Panthers’ defensive coordinator Ralph Street, who was a defensive line coach during the same period and was the roommate of former defensive backs coach and current Braves’ defensive coordinator Cedric Thomas.


That familiarity will be part of the chess match on Saturday as the Braves, the three-time defending SWAC Eastern Division champs, enter the game on a three-game winning streak.


Offensively, Alcorn leads the SWAC in scoring offense (30.5 ppg), rushing offense (226.0 ypg), and total offense (455.8 ypg), and is second in passing offense (229.8 ypg). QB Lenorris Footman leads the conference in passing yards (1,334), passing touchdowns (nine), and total offense (286.5 ypg) and is fourth in rushing yards (385). Footman threw for a career-best 424 yards against McNeese St. earlier this year and was recruited by Simmons to Alcorn.


“He’s a tough guy, so they are a tough football team physically,” Simmons said. “He’s tough mentally, and they’re tough mentally as well. I think they take on the identity of not only of their head coach – Fred McNair has done a phenomenal job there – but also the identity of their quarterback. To me, when I watch them on film, that’s what I see – an offense that has taken the identity of the guy behind center. He’s playing at a very high level, and it’s allowed them to play some really good football this year.”


Defensively, the Braves are second in scoring defense (21.7 ppg), and fourth in both rushing defense (147.2 ypg) and total defense (358.3 ypg).


“You see a little bit of everything,” Simmons said of the Alcorn defense. “(Cedric’s) doing a great job of mixing up looks – three-down fronts, four-down fronts, no-down fronts – he’s doing a little bit of it all. It’s a huge challenge for our offensive line, to identify the rushers, for our running backs and tight ends to add on in protections, for our quarterback to see the coverage on identify what they are doing on the back end, and just for us to consistently and efficiently make plays. That’s what they are going to challenge you to do.”


HOMECOMING TICKETS ON SALE: Tickets for the 2017 homecoming game are on sale online at pvpanthers.com/tickets.


RALEIGH, N.C. – The Shaw University football team will host Livingstone College in a Central Intercollegiate Athletic Association (CIAA) Conference Southern Division contest on Saturday, Oct. 14 at Durham County Memorial Stadium. The game will kick off at 1 p.m. In addition, the game has been tagged as Breast Cancer Awareness Day as fans are encouraged to wear pink to the game in recognition of October being National Breast Cancer Awareness Month.


Game Information:
Live coverage that will feature video and live stats on www.shawbears.com. Fans can also follow live tweets on Twitter @ShawBears.


The Series / Last Meeting: Saturday’s game will mark the 28th time the Bears and Blue Bears will meet on the gridiron. The two teams met last season during the 2016 campaign in Salisbury, N.C. where Shaw suffered a 23-12 loss to the Blue Bears.


In that contest, the Bears tallied 319 total offense (134 rushing, 134 passing) while LC produced 356 (163 passing, 193 rushing). Shaw finished with 11 penalties worth 147 yards and two turnovers while being outscored 3-of-4 quarters that led the defeat.


Last Time Out: The Bears (2-4, 1-2 CIAA) enter Saturday’s game coming off a 24-21 loss to Fayetteville State last weekend in Fayetteville, N.C. FSU nailed a 30-yard field goal with four seconds remaining in the contest to take the victory over Shaw, leaving the Bears with a 0-1 start in division action.


Senior quarterback Darron Downing (Portsmouth, VA) completed 11-of-19 passes for 79 yards and one touchdown while senior wide receiver Trevante Long (Greenbelt, MD) registered four receptions for 37 yards and a score and junior running back Michael Sherman(Powder Springs, GA) rushed for 66 yards on 12 carries.


Sophomore Devon Hunt (Rockingham, NC) recorded a game-high 13 tackles (eight solo), one break up and a tackle for loss while sophomore Eric Walker (Miami, FL) added nine tackles (four solo) and senior Andrew Cash finished with eight tackles (five solo) and two tackle for losses.


The Bears are fourth in the division running’s as Winston-Salem State (4-2, 2-1 CIAA, 1-0 South) is currently in first place, following Saint Augustine’s (2-4, 2-1 CIAA, 1-0 South) being second and Fayetteville State (2-4, 1-2 CIAA, 1-0 South), third.


Shaw concluded the game just 3-for-10 in third down conversions and was 0-for-4 in field goals compared the Broncos who connected 8-of-13 in third downs and 1-4 in field goals.


Livingstone: The Blue Bears (0-6, 0-3 CIAA) have not won a game this season as they are 0-1 in the South after falling to Saint Augustine’s thanks to a late field goal that prevailed the Falcons over LC by the score of 30-29 on Oct. 7. The Blue Bears finished with 416 total yards, including 255 that came from rushing led by Jarius Richardson who produced 124 yards on 26 carries and one score. Justin Ruffin ran for 99 yards on 10 carries while Xavier Longerbeam completed 13-of-25 passes for 130 yards and two touchdowns.


LC currently stands in sixth place in the Southern Division.

Up Next:

Shaw heads to Charlotte, N.C. to face Johnson C. Smith on Saturday, Oct. 22. The game is scheduled to begin at 1 p.m.

Long-Standing Stereotypes about Hispanic Women in the US Media

We celebrate Hispanic Heritage Month and look forward to a better understanding of the diversity of America

The American media has always been a bit unfair to Latinos, putting them into stereotypical boxes that they constantly have to fight to get out of. Here are some common stereotypes about Hispanics in the US media:


  • Latinos are maids. Yes, just like any other community, there are Latinos who work as maids. Maybe there were a lot of maids from the community at some point in time, but not anymore. There are a lot of other professions and careers that Latino women are into today.
  • Latino men are always amazing lovers. There may be many Latino men who are really good lovers, but certainly not all of them are the same. They have the same problems as other men when it comes to dating women. They are also sometimes shy, not always exceptionally experienced and are real men with real problems in life.
  • Latino women are always overly sexy. Latino women have different body types, just like the rest of us. They are not always bearing their cleavage or oozing sexuality. They have individual and unique personalities that go beyond their looks and physical appearance.
  • Latinos are drug dealers and peddlers. Yes, certain South American countries have drug cartels and there are Latinos who deal in drugs. But again, not all of them are the same. Every community has people who get into drugs or crime and is the same with the Hispanic community as well. Most Latinos have good jobs and families that have never been into crime or drugs.
  • Latinos are loud and always overreact. There are shy, reticent Latinos, people who are not always attracting attention to themselves with their loudness. They are not all overly emotional either, knowing very well how to manage difficult situations and people with ease without losing their cool.
  • Latinos have very large families. Yes, some Latinos do have big immediate and extended families and some of them may live together as well. But that does not mean that there are no small families among Hispanics. Nuclear families are as common as huge joint families in this community too.
  • Latinos cannot speak English, and if they do, it is heavily accented and nasal. There are many Latinos who have lived in the United States all their life and speak English as well as any other American. Some of the second and third generation Hispanics speak English as their first language.

The US media surely needs to change their portrayal of Latinos and showcase the community for what it really is – vibrant and diverse.



During National Hispanic Heritage Month(September 15 to October 15) we recognize the contributions made and the important presence of Hispanic and Latino Americans to the United States and celebrate their heritage and culture.

Hispanics have had a profound and positive influence on our country through their strong commitment to family, faith, hard work, and service. They have enhanced and shaped our national character with centuries-old traditions that reflect the multiethnic and multicultural customs of their community.

Hispanic Heritage Month, whose roots go back to 1968, begins each year on September 15, the anniversary of the independence of five Latin American countries: Costa Rica, El Salvador, Guatemala, Honduras and Nicaragua. Mexico, Chile and Belize also celebrate their independence days during this period and Columbus Day (Día de la Raza) is October 12.

The term Hispanic or Latino, refers to Puerto Rican, South or Central American, or other Spanish culture or origin regardless of race. On the 2010 Census form, people of Spanish, Hispanic and/or Latino origin could identify themselves as Mexican, Mexican American, Chicano, Puerto Rican, Cuban, or “another Hispanic, Latino, or Spanish origin.”

Today, 55 million people or 17% of the American population are of Hispanic or Latino origin. This represents a significant increase from 2000, which registered the Hispanic population at 35.3 million or 13% of the total U.S. population.

Share in this special annual tribute by learning and celebrating the generations of Hispanic and Latino Americans who have positively influenced and enriched our nation and society.


Pat Narduzzi Press Conference NC State Week



PAT NARDUZZI: Another tough one for our guys. Three-point loss up in Syracuse, left a lot of plays out there, and really went through the facts last night with our guys really of what we did and really what we didn’t do to win that football game. But they’re scoring touchdowns, we’re kicking field goals, three of them. I tried to do some math with them last night, you turn one of those field goals when you get down in the red zone into a touchdown, what do we win by? It’s like, you win. And they got the point total correct, too. Smart guys at Pitt.

But there’s a lot of little things that we just don’t do out on the field to make those plays, and you can’t — against anybody in the ACC, and Syracuse continues to get better. They’re a good football team. It was a great game for sure for the fans to watch. Much better than last year, I might add, as far as just watching a game and being competitive and more of a defensive game I guess than an offensive game. Lots of three-and-outs in the first half for both defenses.

But you know, there’s a lot of things that we need to do, offensively, defensively, to get a lot better. For example, I mean, just — they made some great catches. They got a couple of phenomenal catches, and we got opportunities to make the same ones, and we don’t make them. What’s the problem there? We’ve just got to make plays, and it’s really what it comes down to when you have opportunities; you have to make them. You’ve got to attack the ball and high point it, and the same thing on defense. I think we started off with a bang, and then 98 plays later we’re a little tired. Jordan Whitehead probably gave him too many reps for any of you guys who want to start them both ways. When you take 80 snaps on defense and eight or nine on offense and special teams, as well, you’re the person to protect on the punt team, he’s got too many and you don’t see it because he keeps going, and he’s never saying, ‘Coach, I need a blow.’ He just keeps going. But when you start missing tackles, then it affects everybody. Those are some of the things that we’ve got to make sure we don’t continue to do. That’s on coaches and players.

But we play a fantastic North Carolina State team, a team that as a voting member of the USA Today, I’ve been voting for them since week one. I can show you my results from week one, but I’ve voted for them all along because I’ve watched what they’ve done during the summer on tape. They’re a physical football team, they’re a veteran football team. They’ve got, I think, 18 returning starters, eight on defense and 10 on offense. Their entire line is back from a year ago. And any time you have that consistency and guys that have played around — Dave, Coach Doeren, is going into his, I think, fifth season here, and the program is very, very stable at this point, and that’s what happens when you give a coach — I knew Dave back when he was at Northern Illinois. When you give a guy that much time to do his deal, and my hats go off to those folks there for hanging in, and they’ve got a good football team, from skill all the way to the line, on both sides of the ball.

It starts up front with those guys. Chubb, Street, Hill, Jones across the front, they’ve got one of the best D-lines you’ll see in the country. I saw that last year. I saw that they were good.


Q. What’s the situation at quarterback for you guys going into this week?
PAT NARDUZZI: Keep practicing. Our team is continuing to grow in a lot of different spots, and it will have to go faster there. I feel bad for Max. We’re still evaluating his body, so that’s still in evaluation, but Ben DiNucci is the guy. I’ve had a meeting with Ben this morning about preparation and putting as much into it as he possibly can, and Ben has got a ton of ability. We’ve talked about that, and he needs to relax in the pocket and identify who he’s supposed to read and throw the ball and manage the run game properly so everything clicks. We’ve got faith in Ben, and Kenny Pickett will be his backup. I don’t know if I mentioned this at staff meeting or to our team or to my wife, we’ve got a lot of confidence in Kenny Pickett, as well. That’s why I had no — when Max went down, you can’t hesitate, you’ve got to know what your next move is, and Thomas MacVittie, again, is another exceptional athlete, but Kenny Pickett is just a little bit further ahead of him mentally. Thomas played receiver for a long time in high school and doesn’t have a lot of reps there, but is a talented kid. So we still have faith in him, as well.

But Kenny is probably as mentally prepared as any freshman quarterback in the country, I think. He’s way ahead of where DiNucci was when he was a freshman mentally, so he’s a guy that we had confidence in from the beginning. He pays attention to details, as well. So he’ll be our backup, and we’ll progress that way.

Q. The decision — is there a scenario where he could even have a package or two?
PAT NARDUZZI: Who’s that?

Q. Pickett?
PAT NARDUZZI: Well, I have a lot of packages, like the entire package. He’s smart enough to know the entire package.

Q. Are you going to try to get him playing time? To burn him for one snap, you would need something miraculous to happen no matter how strong kids are on this team. I assume there’s a long game you’re trying to play.
PAT NARDUZZI: It’s a long game, it’s a developmental game, and it’s a guy that’s ready. We’d like to play him, put it that way. We don’t want to play him for one play and then burn a redshirt. But I’ve seen guys think redshirts are burned, and to me — when you talk redshirting, it’s about when your opportunity arises, and there’s nobody that turns that down. There was a receiver a long time ago at the University of Rhode Island who had to play in the last game of the season against Hofstra I believe it was. He hadn’t played all year, we had the Delaware game the week before, had a bunch of guys get hurt, kid’s name was Ricketts, I believe, and burned his redshirt year that year, played one game, last game of the season, caught seven balls. Then next year, those other receivers that got hurt in that game weren’t hurt, okay, and he ended up redshirting the second year, okay. Didn’t play a down. That’s what it was.

So you never know. When your time is called, you’ve got to play. Kenny is a team guy. I’ve talked to his dad. He understands the process. He understands — he’s understood that sitting in that room. You’re one snap away from being a backup, and that’s at every position, that happens. Quarterback is not a position you’re trying to rotate and get guys series. We’ve got to get Ben in the rotation and — excuse me, get Ben in the flow of the game and let him go.

Q. When you talked to Ben this morning in that meeting, do you tell him to approach this week any differently? He says he’s been approaching every week the same, but obviously it’s not the same when Max is definitely not going to play.
PAT NARDUZZI: Yeah, but told him to take it better than he has. I think you can always get better. I think everybody can get better. I can spend more time in the office. I can spend the night again. I mean, everybody can give you more, okay, and I just told him, hey, listen, we need more. What you’ve done so far is okay, but you need more. It’s the same thing for everybody. Everybody needs to give more. When someone goes down, it’s the next man up, and he’s got more, okay. I might take his phone away from him. Does he tweet, Jerry?

Q. He has a Twitter account, but not much.
PAT NARDUZZI: Not much? That’s good. Whatever I’ve got to do, I’ll take something away from him. Maybe I’ll take his video games.

Q. Have you had a chance to look back at the play that Max got hurt on and see what happened there?
PAT NARDUZZI: Yeah. It was a real wide end, coming off the field side, and Matt Flanagan is coming across the line of scrimmage or coming across the formation to block him, and Qadree was kind of — they brought a blitz at the same time from the field. A backer was coming, and if it was just a D-end they both would have blocked him, but Qadree kind of got just a little bit in Flanagan’s way, and they couldn’t pick him off the edge. I don’t know if I’d say nice job by them. They did it by accident, but just didn’t — Flanagan couldn’t get over tight enough, unfortunately.

Q. Over the last — the previous two years, you haven’t really had to discipline that many people, but now it’s six guys in the past five months. When something like that happens, are you fearful that the message isn’t getting across to some guys?
PAT NARDUZZI: Everybody is different. You know, the message is getting communicated, I can tell you that. Like I said in the past, we will be a disciplined football team. We’re going to do little things right, from tucking our shirts in on trips — we’re going to do the little things right. I think, again, as soon as you let some of those things go, and obviously this was not a tucking your shirt in problem, but those are how small the details are that we’re working on and developing, and I think when you’re a young football team and you don’t have a lot of seniors sitting in that front row that have command of the room like we did a year ago, that there’s always going to be those issues, and it’s the age these kids are growing up in nowadays. You look around at some of the bigger things happening in the world, and they just trickle down into smaller things here. I mean, you look at Las Vegas, who would have ever thought that would happen 15 years ago? There’s little things that our kids are growing up in the world that we didn’t have to, and we’ve just got to stay on the little things, details, and again, if you aren’t detailed off the field, you won’t be detailed on the field, and that’s the emphasis we’re trying to make.

Q. Do you address things with the team when this kind of stuff happens?
PAT NARDUZZI: Yeah, no question about it. It gets addressed really quickly.

Q. When you see Dave Doeren’s defense, what’s stood out to you about things they did schematically?
PAT NARDUZZI: Well, Dave Huxtable is the defensive coordinator. I think you guys have some history with him. But he’s very detailed. Got a great plan, just playing sound football. I mean, they’re not complicated when you look at them, but they have a system, and they run the system, and they fit their players into the system, and they’ve got some cats up front that are really good that make everybody else around them really good.

Q. How much better does your offensive line have to play in this game compared to what they’ve been doing the last couple of weeks?
PAT NARDUZZI: They’ve got to play like they did against Penn State. They’ve got to be able to rush the football. So we’ve done that in the past, and they’ve got to play good. But quarterback has got to play good. Running backs got to play better. Receivers got to make blocks and catch the ball. It’s 11 guys, it ain’t just the offensive line. You know, I think that’s evident when you watch Jordan Whitehead run. I mean, I think if you interviewed an offensive lineman, hey, are you blocking any different when Jordan Whitehead is in there, and they’d probably tell you no. I don’t think they get in the huddle and say, ‘Oh, number 9 is in here, let’s block for this guy today.’ There’s some blocking going on. It can be better always, but our run game has got to be better, too.

Q. Are you hoping to settle on five guys on the O-line and in that Syracuse game it didn’t happen?
PAT NARDUZZI: No. Again, we’re rotating guys around. Still trying to find out who they are and giving them opportunities. The only way you get better is to have opportunities to play. You know, if there was five beasts up there, then we’d keep the five beasts and you can tell the guys that haven’t been out of the two deep or been out of the starting lineup, so we’re looking for the five consistent guys, and if it’s all average, then keep them fresh and give them an opportunity to go play.

Q. How close do you feel like you guys are to finding success?
PAT NARDUZZI: Well, when we rush for 300 yards this weekend, if we rush for 300 yards, I think we’ve found — how close are we? We’re probably not going to know until next spring, you know. Think about it. It is what it is right now. I mean, we’re not going to go off the free agent wire and see if we can pick some guys up. We’ve just got to keep coaching them.

The great thing about our kids is they care. They’ve got a great care factor. They want to get better. They sit in here with their eyes up, and they want to get better. That’s the important thing, and they’re having opportunities to play and prove that they are the guy, whether it’s Brandon Hodges and Jaryd Jones-Smith and Mike Herndon, Dintino, they are all having opportunities to go out there and put their pads on somebody.

Q. Any combination that’s standing out to you, especially on the right side?
PAT NARDUZZI: I don’t know. Maybe.

Q. When you look at NC State, do they sort of — what Dave has done there, they’ve taken that step from not great to first year to where they are now, is that a model for a program like you guys and the way that they’re playing, is that a model that you kind of want to follow?
PAT NARDUZZI: I mean, I think anybody in the country wants to. Consistency and getting your guys in place, and every place is different. Every situation is a little bit different that you walk into. I think here we walked into a pretty good situation with some pretty good players. Paul did a good job recruiting, but they were all older guys that had played a lot of football. I think time is to tell there. I think some people lose patience. They have it down there, and Dave has run his course. He believed in what he’s doing, and he’s done a nice job. They’ve got a great pool of kids around their area, and obviously it comes down to recruiting and getting the right players in that program. They’ve done a great job.

Q. That nickel defense — Is that encouraging for you as a coach that you can deploy that in the future when you see these four-, five-wide receiver teams?
PAT NARDUZZI: The what defense you said?

Q. Using five defensive backs.
PAT NARDUZZI: It’s encouraging, but we knew we’ve had that, use it when you need to or you feel like you have to or the run game is not what it is. I mean, they didn’t really start running the ball until the second half. If they just want to throw it every down, then you kind of build it off of that, and we had base in there, as well, so you just kind of do what they’re doing.

Q. When you went one running back down this Saturday, I thought maybe Davis would play but he only played one carry.
PAT NARDUZZI: He had one carry, and you want him in there. He has one carry, and he’s supposed to break it outside, he cuts it back inside. He’s still a young guy that I want to get him more carries, and I told him before the game we want to get you more carries and then — I’m not subbing guys in. I’m not the sub coach on offense, but they’ve got to go with who they feel understands what they’re doing. They know what the game plan is offensively. But we’d like to get him more carries. I want to see the guy go and see if he can be a difference maker for us. But I wish he’d get more reps. I really do.

Q. Is practice going to be any different for Jordan Whitehead team wise?
PAT NARDUZZI: Probably not, no. He’s a smart guy, plays both ways every week.

Q. Were there plays that he was in that you guys didn’t give it to him Saturday?
PAT NARDUZZI: I think one. No, I think we gave it to him every time, and they probably knew that, too.

Q. How do you find that balance for Jordan on offense and defense?
PAT NARDUZZI: You know, I’m over balance right now. You don’t want to use him like you were using him. You don’t want to wear him out. I don’t want to wear the kid out. He’s a great kid that wants to go. He comes off yesterday all smiles, and I said, hey, just keep going. We’ll do what we need to do. But he’s a super kid that is all in.

Q. You’re halfway through now. If you look at it, you guys got a streak of having reached a postseason game nine years. Do you try to block out big-picture stuff when you’ve got the tough schedule the rest of the way?
PAT NARDUZZI: One at a time. One at a time. If we start looking ahead, we’re going to be in big trouble. We’re not smart enough. We’re not mature enough to ever look ahead. We’ve got to focus on North Carolina State. We’ve got a great football team coming in homecoming weekend, and it’ll be a great challenge for us this football team. Top-20 team coming into Heinz Field.

Q. Do you have to sort of revisit or look at the amount of jet sweeps and shovel passes or the way you use them?
PAT NARDUZZI: Yeah, again, with the way they’re playing, we should have more effect inside. It’s all based on how they’re structured defensively, and we’re not getting it out to Quadree, and even when he does get out there, we’re getting one-arm tackled and put on the ground, so we’ve got to make something happen when we do get the ball in our hands, and that loosens some other things up. But yeah, we look at that every week.

Q. When you look back at the film of the run game from the past few games —
PAT NARDUZZI: It looked pretty good when No. 9 was in there, didn’t it? Didn’t struggle when No. 9 was in there, did it?

Q. When you look back at the film, I guess what do you see? Is it kind of more on the backs? Is it the line not getting opportunities?
PAT NARDUZZI: I think it’s a little bit — it’s a great question, and I think I answer it every week. It’s a little of everything. You know, it’s a little bit of the backs. Sometimes it’s a quarterback making the right check, depending on the game and who made that call. Max has been really good at that. And then sometimes it’s the offensive line. It only takes one. When you put them all in a box and you’re in a two-tight end set and one guy misses a block, it can look like an ugly play, but four other guys really blocked well, but if you miss one block, then it all goes downhill, and it doesn’t matter. It makes them all look bad, and that’s why you count on that guy next to you, whether it’s a center or guard or tackle that’s next to you to do his job and focus on that, keep your head up and use your hands and don’t block with your flippers and your arms, and that’s what it comes down to.

But if you miss one block, it could be fatal. That’s been the problem. So it’s not one thing you can point at, just the running backs, and it’s not just the offensive line, it’s a combination, and that’s why they call it a team game. If we played football with one guy out there, it was one-on-one, it would be pretty easy to say who didn’t get it done. But one play this guy is good, one play it’s not.

Q. Is Therran Coleman sort of in the lead for that third cornerback spot now after how much he played Saturday?
PAT NARDUZZI: You know, he is. His stock has risen. I told him it was going to be important, him getting an opportunity. He won that position; it wasn’t a, ‘Here you go, Therran, go be the guy.’ He won it in a competition like we do every week. We try to compete — we’re going to compete at quarterback this week. Kenny is going to compete. He’s going to try to look better. We’re going to compete at every position like we do every week and find out who’s going. But Therran competed and won that spot and did a nice job at it.

He was physical, he tackled well when he was out there. It was your fear; I yelled at him on Thursday because he did a couple of those whiz tackles where he pretended like he tackled the guy but he didn’t. I was like, ‘Dude, you’re too young to do that. Don’t be doing that on Thursday practice. Thud him up.’ And that’s your fear, the guy goes out there and doesn’t thud it up. But Therran did a nice job. It was good.

We’ve still got our two starting corners, so it’s hard, and we’ll do some nickel this weekend, as well, so he’ll have opportunities.

Q. What does NC State do offensively?
PAT NARDUZZI: They are a big, big zone team. Their offensive line is big, physical. You guys are asking real football questions. I like it. Thanks, guys. They’re a big offensive line physically. They run a lot of outside zone. They’ve got some RPOs involved, as well. Finley is a very smart quarterback. I don’t think he’s thrown a pick this year. He manages the game well. He’s a transfer from Boise. He does a great job of just managing the game. He doesn’t try to do too much. He’s obviously very intelligent. I don’t know what his GPA is, but based on watching him and what he does, how he manages the game, you can tell he’s probably a 4.0 guy that pays attention to details. He’s probably in the film room right now trying to dissect our defense and figure out what he can do and how he can do it and what tells him this, what tells him that. That’s what he does, and you can see it on tape.

Q. The challenge of Samuels, they use him a bunch of different ways.
PAT NARDUZZI: He’s all over the place. He’s their H-wide back that will play fullback, play wide receiver, throw him bubbles. He’ll get 12 carries a game probably. He’s a guy that they utilize. He’s a good football player.

Q. What can you say about Kessman and his improvement since the beginning of the year?
PAT NARDUZZI: He actually hasn’t gotten any better. He’s been the same guy. The uprights just move every once in a while and they go through. I almost called the punt team out for that 56-yarder when I saw their kick returner go back there. I’m like, ‘Oh, my gosh, our O-line better cover here.’ When you’ve got a punt returner, kick returner back there that’s a 100-meter guy standing at the end line and you’re kicking — you line up for a 56-yard field goal and then you’ve got to go — it’s not like your punt team is out there or your kickoff team. It’s our field goal team. You’ve got a lot of beef out there that you really don’t even have to block them to make them miss. So it was a little scary. I had the punt team called up just in case. I changed my mind at the last second. Glad I didn’t. But that thing would have been good from 56 and a half yards probably, and I think, gol-ly.

Q. O’Neill could run down one of those guys maybe.
PAT NARDUZZI: One guy. That feels pretty wide.

Q. You mentioned Pickett’s mental acumen. Can you give an example of maybe some things you’ve taken up in the film room?
PAT NARDUZZI: He’s just a detailed guy. He’s a very detailed student of the game is what he is. He’s obviously been well-coached in high school. I think it starts there. You don’t — you don’t develop overnight at quarterback, and he’s developed while he’s here and Coach Watson enjoys him in the meeting room because he can answer a lot of questions. He understands the game.

Big Ben’s 5 interceptions lead to 30-9 loss to Jaguars  


After the Pittsburgh Steelers laid an egg against the Chicago Bears 2 weeks ago, but after watching them lose to the Jacksonville Jaguars 30-9, It was like the Steelers laid a dozen eggs.

Or at least 5, which was the number of interceptions that quarterback Ben Roethlisberger threw, with 2 of them returned for touchdowns, 3 minutes apart. I honestly don’t believe that I’ve ever seen that in a game. Their ‘high-powered’ offense failed to score a TD of their own, and RB Le’Veon Bell who finished with 15 carries for 47 yards against the NFL’s worst run defense. Steelers K Chris Boswell provided the points with 3 field goals.

The Steelers defense did sack Jaguars QB Blake Bortles twice and LB Ryan Shazier had an interception.

Although Jaguars rookie RB Leonard Fournette tortured the Steelers with 181 yards and 2 scores, it was Big Ben’s interceptions that hurt this team as he was quoted after the game “Maybe I don’t have it anymore.” HOF Steelers QB Terry Bradshaw also threw 5 picks in a loss to the San Diego Chargers in 1979. But that team won Super Bowl 14. Brett Farve, Drew Brees, Peyton and Eli Manning have also thrown 5 picks in a game.

Big Ben and the Steelers need to shake off this loss as they will play the hot KC Chiefs next Sunday. The 3-2 Jaguars will face the LA Rams next Sunday.

NFL Scores

Urban Media Today Black College Football Poll 10/09/17

The UMT Black College Football Poll  10/09/17 ( Week 6) 
#  1 Grambling State      5-1    (Beat Prairie View A&M 34-21)
#  2 N.Carolina Central   4-1    (Beat Howard 13-7)
#  3 North Carolina A&T  6-0    (Beat Delaware State 44-3)
#  4 Bowie State              6-0    (Beat Chowan 41-10)
#  5 Virginiia State           5-0    (Beat Elizabeth City St 56-0)
#  6 Tennessee State      4-2     (Beat Eastern Kentucky 45-21)
#  7  Alcorn State            4-2     (Beat Alabama State 24-10)
#  8  Albany State           4-2     (Beat Lincoln (Mo) 30-10)
#  9  Howard                    2-3     (Lost to NCCU 13-7)
#10  Langston                  5-0     (Beat Lane 27-21)
Honorable Mention 
Tuskegee              4-2     (Beat Morehouse 23-17)
Virginia Union       4-2     (Beat Lincoln (PA) 45-23)
Winston Salem St 4-2     (Beat J.C. Smith  27-22)
Clark-Atlanta.         3-3     ( Lost to Fort Valley State  41-24)
Hampton.               3-2      (Beat Savannah State 17-10)

Managing Your Grocery Budget While Living on Assistance Programs

Eating well on a tight budget continues to become a bigger challenge with each passing year. In fact, in the last 20 years, “food prices have risen 2.6 percent a year on average.” Among budgets high and low, everyone is experiencing higher grand totals each time they visit the checkout lane at the grocery store.

For those living on assistance programs, this impact is even more significant. Whether you are receiving assistance for your housing payment, food expenses, or medical expenses, an increase in your grocery bill can make your situation even more difficult. It is essential to have strategies to stretch your funds as food prices continue to rise. If you are currently looking for ways to manage your grocery budget while living on financial assistance programs, explore these valuable tips.

Cook unprocessed, whole foods

Receiving funds from assistance programs for food is a much-needed help. However, at times, it can feel almost impossible to eat healthily on a restricted budget. Skipping fresh foods for items such as pasta, canned goods, and other highly processed foods may seem like the only way to make your budget work. However, did you know that whole meat, frozen vegetables, and rice are some of the least expensive foods available? While prices vary depending on your location and individual grocery store prices, frozen vegetables can be purchased for as low as $0.99 per bag, and large bags of rice that will last weeks or months are usually no more than a few dollars. Items such as whole chickens can often be purchased for between $4-$6 at many stores. It is less expensive than many people think to put together a healthy, nutritious meal.

Use physical and digital coupons

Want to save as much money as possible on your food purchases? Look for coupons from a variety of sources. Websites that offer physical coupons allow you to print the coupons you want and use them at the store. Instant save coupons can also be found on products in stores. For those who have a smartphone, some stores offer in-app coupons. Even if you don’t have much time to spend searching for coupons, it pays to take a look at each grocery store trip.

Be brand flexible

When you choose to buy the brands that are on sale rather than just one brand, you have the potential to save big. Check the weekly sales ad to see which brands are on sale, and plan to buy those instead of a more expensive brand of the same item.

Look for deals on products close to the expiration date

Stores want to sell as much of their products as they can before the expiration date. When meat, dairy, and produce are within a few days of their expiration date, stores will often offer a major discount. Look carefully for products that are marked down for this reason, as they are usually mixed in with products that have later expiration dates. Also be sure that you will be able to use what you buy before the expiration date listed.

It is possible to eat well while living on assistance programs

Even though managing your grocery budget while living on assistance programs can feel discouraging, these strategies will help you make the most of what you have. Utilize as many coupons as possible, look for bargains, and buy brands that offer the best sales. As you develop experience using these tips, you will see that it is possible to eat healthy foods and buy what you need.

Jess Walter Contributor